Meditation, Mental Stability, Meditation, Self Motivation, Woman Empowerment, Team Work, Prioritizing Life, Positivity, Wholistic Living, Uncategorized

The 2020 Chronicles- A Lesson Well Learnt

Happy New Year! Whew!! What a year 2020 has been. Its behind us now but if you’re like me you’re probably still trying to catch your breath from the reeling effects of it.

A few days ago I drafted this nice 10 point blog post on what I had learnt and wanted to share but in all fairness to the few faithful followers I had to delete it. My initial goal for this page was to be as real and transparent as possible…even at the risk of leaving myself vulnerable to public scrutiny or personal attack. The end goal is to help someone else through my life experiences- raw and uncut. So today I am going against the “ever green” blogging rule and I will speak from my heart. Here goes…

…2020 brought with it alot of “blessings” for my family and I. We were able to cross off more from our list of personal goals than we have been able to do in past years. I am not saying this boastfully. We were finally accomplishing silent but steadily progressive wins…BUT as the year continued I was quickly reminded that with every new level came new devils.👀

From January 2020 (when I accepted my new job position) straight through to its end I felt like I was on one of those rollercoaster rides in a horror night themed park. It was like all of hades had read my blog posts and had determined that they would test every single word I had written to make sure I was really who I was claiming to be! My faith in God and myself were tested beyond measure. Lets just say, things got real pretty fast!!

Working from home brought with it many benefits and advantages but also produced a greater degree of responsibility and risk associated with the position.

Most days I was able to overcome the hurdles and challenges that were presented and pushed through by remaining calm and focused in my daily routines.

By the 2nd quarter I had managed to adjust to the changes of working from home amidst emergency lockdown protocols.

Then in early October I enrolled my son into a homeschool program set up at a friend’s house to alleviate some of the pressure of mothering while carrying on my desk work. However, that decision was made reluctantly (all things considered) as it came on the tail end of a multi million dollar mistake that could have resulted in major loss. It was only by the grace of God and divine intervention the funds were retrieved and I was spared my job…Following that I believe I may have gotten passed up for a higher position that I was being considered for prior to the mistake. Ouch! …And that’s when it all really started to take a toll on me emotionally and mentally.

One hurdle and rollercoaster dip after the other, I overcame each one holding my breath waiting to see what new adventure the next day would bring. Then when everything seemed to be going fine, I would find myself dodging another bullet or dagger. This pattern continued throughout the entire year.

Some days I would say to myself “All of “this” can not be real, it has to be staged!”

I felt like I was apart of some social experiment and at any moment the camara crew would come out from hiding.

Then there were the emergency orders from the local competent authorities. We would be “allowed” to move about for a few days or a weekend then the next week we would have to brace ourselves for the horrifying Sunday 5pm national address. I think those three words “My fellow Bahamians” has been added to my list of triggers. LOL! 🥴

As Covid numbers continued to rise locally so did the death toll…Then its effects started to hit closer to home. One of my own family members living in the U.S. had contracted Covid and had to be assisted by a breathing machine. Then young mothers of childhood friends, neighbours and family members started dieing one behind the other.

I watched them all grieve their losses, some unable to give their loved one the usual “fitting” send off that was indicative of a traditional homegoing service. I think I had become numb to it all up to the point where I had to watch the graveside service of my friend’s mother from my telephone screen as I drove to collect a curbside pick up! She hadn’t died from Covid19 but it was the fact that because of Covid19 protocols I could not physically attend the funeral of a woman I once considered a mother. I wasn’t sure how to respond. I felt helpless…

Some days the reality of it all became overwhelming and even with written words very hard to articulate. Some experiences, both personal and communicated to me by other family members, I am unable to disclose because of its sensitive nature. Just know that there are some things that are beyond human comprehension and only God would understand.

A few times I found myself sitting at my desk and would suddenly get the urge to just start praying. The words and the tears would begin to flow. I’d start praying against untimely death from over my household and extended family, breaking generational curses and speaking words of declarations over my bloodline and lineage. I had to bind the spirits of depression and anxiety. I started to speak words of faith to dispel and cancel out every negative word that may have been spoken into the atmosphere.

In those moments it was as if there was another force guiding the words of those prayers.

Closer to the end of the year, it seemed everything I was experiencing was intensifying. From one major system failure after the other, to oversights, opposition, dodging car accidents, to my husband’s Christmas week fender bender. Everything seemed to be going haywire! So much so that a senior officer called me privately one day and admitted that she felt as though what she was observing could not be natural but spiritual. There is no way that these back to back activities were normal!

We both agreed that the only remedy was consistent perpetual prayer. She recommended what scripture I should incorporate into my daily devotion moving forward. The irony of it all though, is that she admitted to not being a strong professing Christian but God saw fit to use her to recognize the powers that were at work and speak words of encouragement into my hearing.

I took her advice and came into 2021 with that same posture. Making prayer and praise my daily mantra. It is the only thing that has kept my mind at peace in the middle of the chaos.

If there is any valuable lesson I have taken away from 2020 it is this:

Without God, family and trustworthy people, life is meaningless. I don’t care how many goals I had made for the year ahead. It doesn’t matter how many of them I was able to achieve. It doesn’t matter how smart, creative or efficient I think I am. Without God’s intervention in my life everything would have fallen apart. Everything!! I saw God’s hand in every single scenario that was meant for my destruction. And what I thought was man’s rejection was actually God’s protection.

He blocked every fall, turning my disappointments into learning experiences and working it all out in my favor.

I have always known the importance of prayer but 2020 has reaffirmed how powerful consistent prayer truly is when applied. The act of prayer acknowledges our human limitations and God’s all sufficiency. I am the first to admit, I definitely needed discipline in this area of my spiritual life. I now recognize more than ever that prayer is not just about me and my selfish desires. As a wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend the lives of everyone I hold dear might be dependent on my obedience to pray.

When we have exhausted all energies and options God’s strength is unwavering. He is unmatched in his ability to protect, to heal and to save. Where man’s intelligence falls short, His is unmeasured. In 2020 I watched the smartest and most brilliant minds run out of answers and come to the end of their rope.

We can construct the most strategic and thought out plans, but without God’s sustaining power and His intervention our plans will not flourish. I have been sitting back and observing social media posts of what is intended or expected for 2021. And while I completely support the power of positive words to manifest what you want to see I have learnt to approach my aspirations with a spirit of humility and silent grace.

Im thankful that God loves me enough to allow me to have gone through the process of 2020 without having lost in order to learn. God is faithful and His mercies in my life are everlasting. I thank Him that inspite of the tears of 2020 I walked into 2021 a little bruised but triumphant nonetheless.

I am inspired to become more prayerful and to walk in the quiet confidence of knowing who I am in God. No status, no amount of works and no title can validate my position in Him. He is God, I am His own and that is enough.

Love and Blessings.


Guilty of Prejudice!

I am guilty of prejudice too. I have been in Walmart and scoffed at young black American men walking through the aisles with their trousers hanging beneath the waist of their boxers, entire top row of his teeth overlayed with gold, and the matching gold necklace big enough to hang himself dangling around his neck. “Smt! Why they have to do that? That looks so freakin’ stupid! They look so ignorant man!!!” Voicing my total disdain and annoyance. Ofcourse not for them to hear me because, “He looks like a thug who would probably try to kill me if he…”

I have looked at my young black sisters with their eccentric clothing and their bright colored hair extensions and think to myself “Lawd she look ghetto! Why my people gotta bring so much attention to themselves?!” BUT ofcourse I would never say that out loud because “she would probably wanna fight me if she…”

The question now is “why did what those people look like and how they chose to express themselves ignite such a NEGATIVE response in me?”

An even more chilling question, “If I had the AUTHORITY to do something about it how far would I go to do it?”

Had it been a light colored brother of a different ethnicity, would my response be different? Would I even stop to care? I look at full body tatooed white people with punk rock hair and think “interesting” …but not “ghetto”…🤔

Had I been in Nigeria or some other part of Africa and see a native woman clothed in colorful Ankara or one of their men walking around in a skirt, my response would be “well thats just their culture”

Today, I question “WHO was it, that defined what is considered “tasteful” or “socially acceptable” in western world society?”

I too was a victim of prejudice. Yep! Right here in The Bahamas, believe it or not, prejudice still exist, particularily in the corporate arena. It is VERY SUBTLE but its grasps are far reaching.

…Funny thing is, most of the prejudice I encountered didnt come from my European or Canadian employers. In most instances, they were actually the “nice” ones.

The prejudice came from my own black people.

In one work environment I was often criticized by some of my black female coworkers for wearing braids and natural (unpermed) hair. In their opinion it looked “tacky” and “unrefined” for that line of business.

I wont even get started with some of me and my husband’s local dining experiences. How black waiters and waitresses nearly break their necks to serve the table of the party that walked in after us. Meanwhile we’re still waiting for someone to come over and take our food order. Needless to say the arriving party were white people.

WE want THEM to accept us for who we are, but we have not accepted ourselves yet. WE still see in color.

We, as a race suffer from an inferiority complex.

There, I said it!

Until we start reaching in to heal the scars of generational mental damage that we have allowed to fester, we cannot expect anyone else to hear us crying out.

We keep putting a bandaid over a wound that is deeper than the surface, it requires surgery.

The change has to first start in us and then transcend to our children…all of us. Not just the white people!

Then and only then…MAYBE with the next generation, a CHANGE will come.

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I cant breathe! Take your knee off my neck, the weight of your oppression is becoming too much for me. I thought that changing locations could break me free from the chains of the negative narrative that you proclaimed over me.

I cant breathe! Your prejudice is choking me! 

I tried to fit into your world, to conform to your idealogies, but obviously that was not enough! Is it my wool textured hair or my dark coloured skin? I CANT CHANGE THAT! Is it the way I express myself through my dress? What is it?! Is it because I dont measure up to your standard of what you think I should be? 

Tell me! WHAT DID I DO WRONG? Did I break some law or moral policy? Or is it simply because I was just being me?! All I have ever wanted is to be free. Free from the oppression! Free from the fight! Free from the struggle! Free from the violence! So why wont you let me be…PLEASE take your knee off my neck and let me breathe! 

I cant breathe…I cant breathe…I cant…

…Finally…with your knee on my neck and the weight of your hate, you released your grip but you took my life away…

Atleast now Im free! 

Free from a world filled with darkness, hate and pride. Free from the masks that they wear to cover their lies. Free from the guilt, shame and fear of just being me. Free from the countless tears of pain and agony. 

I can breathe now…Im free! 


In honor of George Floyd.

May His Soul Rest In Peace. 

Meditation, Mental Stability, Prioritizing Life, Positivity, Wholistic Living

5 Ways to Cope with working from home during COVID19

I dont know about you but the last few weeks have been a roller coaster ride for me! The world has changed and will most likely never return back to the normal that we knew  prior to December 2019. With all of these new changes underway, it is important that we learn to adapt to those changes, flow with the tide so that we are not swept under by the current. The way we have now been forced to live, move around and communicate has tested even the very fabric and theory of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.


In my own personal experience of being in lockdown since March 16th 2020, I have had to process how this new norm has impacted me emotionally and physically.  When the national address by our local authority (Bahamas) was issued on Sunday March 15th announcing that all schools would be closed until further notice, I immediately began taking the necessary steps for the way forward.  I knew that given the present circumstances, it was only a matter of time before the domino effect would begin.  If the children were now out of school then the parents of those children would obviously be working from home next.

Work laptops had been distributed and a Business Continuity Plan set in place at least two weeks prior to the national announcement. None of us were truly mentally prepared for what is now the second month of a 24hour curfew with complete lockdown on weekends.

Back in the day, this would have been my ideal arrangement! Being able to home school my son while working from home would have been a dream come true for me.  They say be careful what you pray for, you just might get it. Well, its now 6 weeks in and I am just now settling into this new temporary set up of being a working professional wife and mother operating from home.

The first two weeks were a major challenge to say the least. And there were a few days of total melt down and temper tantrums…not from my son, but me!

You see, I work in a very fast paced, high intensity environment where my primary function is not only time sensitive but carries a very high degree of risk. Where I would normally be sitting in the front of two large computer monitors which assists me in my daily routine of working between multiple applications; I was now confined to a small laptop doing the exact same work, volume and all.  My husband, who is classified as an essential worker, has continued as normal, going out each morning and working a full day. So imagine the chaos in the first few days! Now I had to manage an over active demanding three year old boy at home alone while trying to meet the demands of this new virtual office set up. Oh did I mention that I was only 2 months into this new position before COVID 19 lockdown started?! Not to mention that my every move was being closely monitored.  Lets just say anxieties were high and so was the pressure to deliver on everything I had sold myself to be…

Between the noisy toddler who refused stay in his section of the house and me trying to adjust to my new work environment outside of the new position, my stress level had hit an entirely new high!

In the first week I attempted to keep the usual morning routine. I woke my son up as I would normally do for school, getting him and myself dressed (bath and lounge clothes).  I would prepare breakfast, set it up in the t.v. room and put on his favorite educational program and then anxiously proceed to my work station which I had set up on my family’s dining room table.

After the first week I realized that  I was working longer hours in my attempt to meet unrealistic deadlines given the circumstances, closing down my laptop sometimes way past the 5pm cut off.

By the end of week two I was feeling extremely drained and depleted mentally and physically.  I was not enjoying this work from home experience at all and at some points I felt very far removed from enjoying the opportunities that had really been afforded to me.  I needed to recalibrate my mind.  I could not do anything about what was happening but I needed to change how I viewed the entire situation and focus on what I could change.  The serenity prayer needed to be invoked.

I needed to stay calm. I needed to reevaluate my responses and reactions in all situations before I allowed my thoughts to be released from my mind.  It took a few weeks but I am finally getting into the groove of truly being at peace with everything.

I am finally seeing the privileges that the present circumstances have afforded us rather than the pains.  I enjoy the privilege of sleeping an hour later and being able to walk the short distance from the bedroom to my work station at the dining room table in my PJs.  There is no morning commute traffic and no pressure to look my best during the daily virtual team meetings.

I enjoy opening up the front door and sliding door located right off the dining room to let in the morning breeze, inviting the sunbeams to shine through as I make my morning coffee at my leisure. I now allow my son to sleep longer.  He wakes up at whatever time nature allows, and this affords me a smoother morning flow; a time to mentally and spiritually prepare for the long day ahead.

When MJ (my son) wakes up I do not restrict his play time or the time that he takes to complete his school assignments. I don’t pressure him or get upset when I see him losing focus.  He’s three and if he retains anything right now, it will most likely be the memory of how he felt during his time spent at home with mommy. My only request from him is that he allows me to work undisturbed in my work area while he plays in his.  “Only interrupt mommy if you need to eat, use the bathroom or change the channel.” He is catching on and this new arrangement has proven successful over the last 3 weeks…Thank God! 🙂



I don’t know for sure how long this new lifestyle is expected to last, but I have determined to make the best of it.  I plan to take in every moment and see it as an opportunity to grow, reflect and retreat. Once its gone and we return back to the hustle and bustle of everyday life, I dont want to have any regrets about how I spent this time.


Here are a few tips that I applied to my current lifestyle change that I feel would be helpful to my readers:

  1. Take Mental Breaks:  You cannot pour from an empty cup. It is imperative that you find the time to focus on your self care.  Your physical body needs rest in order to operate at its optimum level.  You need to know when you have reached your limit-take a break from the work.  This was one thing that I was failing to do during my daily routine and that is why by the end of the work day I was feeling so drained.  You might not be able to take a full lunch hour break, but find at least 15-20 minutes within the work day to move away from your workstation and do what relaxes you.  For me its simply moving into the t.v. room, kicking back in the recliner while I enjoy my lunch then closing my eyes for a few minutes before returning to work.  Sounds simple but I found that it has made a world of difference to simply get away from the virtual office for an hour or so.  At the end of the work week I literally break my workstation down and put it away in a room where I don’t have to see it.  Literally, out of sight, out of mind! And I enjoy my weekend in the company of my family, doing the things that we love together.
  2. Be Creative:  Being restricted to your home does not restrict your ability to create. What would you normally do for recreation, fulfillment or selfcare?   Perhaps its a service that you pay for others to provide to you.  Maybe its a place that you retreat to at the end of a busy week.  Why not try recreating those same experiences from the comfort of your home! I am a girly girl, so I love being pampered.  Getting massages, hair and nails done professionally at least once per month is that selfcare gift to myself. So in my attempt to feel some level of normalcy during the lockdown, all things considered, I purchased a nail gel manicure system on Amazon, which cost me under a $100.00. I unashamedly admit that I had the most exciting and exhilarating feeling when it arrived, two weeks ago! Just to see the colors and quality of the product was enough for me to connect with my past spa experiences (my happy place).  I was eager to test my own skills out and even though the first time around I didn’t quite meet the standards of my regular nail tech, it still gave me a sense of accomplishment and recreation. I have friends that like to dine out on the weekends-trying new restaurants and their favorite dishes takes them to their happy place.  So since they couldn’t get to their favorite spots they instead spend their evenings and weekends recreating different recipes at home. If the things you like to do requires hand skills then your creative juices should thrive in this current environment.  I found that Pinterest is a very useful tool to help harness your creativity. The only limitation is your state of mind.
  3. Find Inspiration: It is important to tune into the positive especially during this time of bad news constantly bombarding the media; which can play a toll on your mental and emotional wellbeing and balance.  Sometimes you have to intentionally disconnect from social media and find inspiration for your soul. It might be a book, an album, a song, a YouTube channel but it is vitally important to recharge mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Some days, the stress level is higher than others.  On those days, I am intentional about replenishing my spiritual energy.  I draw a hot bath, pour in my bath salts and bubbles, set up my personal laptop (away from the water!), find a topic that is fitting to my spiritual needs at the time and I tune in.  Feel free to add in your favorite cup/glass of beverage, maybe some scented candles for that added effect.  Whatever your preference, it is important to note here that your spirit is more vulnerable than you think and you must choose a reputable source to draw from. Just as you would not eat physical food from anywhere for fear of falling sick physically, so is the same for your spirituality. Be careful what you allow into your hearing. Shut down anything that makes you feel depressed, condemned or sad. Choose wisely, listen, meditate, relax- create your own sanctuary of peace and serenity amidst the chaos.
  4. Stay Connected: In a world of new technology, physical distancing doesn’t mean that you have to disconnect from family and friends.  Now more than ever, it is important to remain technologically connected with the people that you love and are unable to physically connect with.  Use platforms such as WhatsApp, Skype and Zoom to check in with your family and friends regularly, specifically those living alone.  I would imagine that this lockdown might be weighing more heavily on those persons emotionally.  When you speak to your family and friends, make sure to keep the communication light hearted though.  No COVID 19 topics of gloom and doom, you hear enough of that already…Find out how your loved ones are doing when you connect?  Truly listen to them, not with the intent to respond but to understand how they are really doing. Let them know how important they are to you. Talk about regular life happenings, events and future plans.  Keep hope and faith at the forefront of your conversations, always.
  5. Plan Ahead: I think it is safe to conclude that out of the human needs according to Maslow, the need for safety/security seems to be heading the chart right now.  With the level of uncertainty around us and the ever changing tides globally, no one is exempt from the possibilities of the trickling effects at the end of COVID 19.  The only saving grace that we have is to be as prudent as possible when it comes to our plans where it involves spending.  Now that I am working from home, I have found that I have been able to save more because I don’t have to worry about filling up my car tank with gas for the commute to work.  At least 3-4 days out of the work week when I was in office I would carry my packed lunch from home, treating myself to Starbucks or a nice lunch some Thursdays and Fridays, whereas now I make all of my breakfast and lunch meals at home.  The same is true where our son is concerned.  We would have normally been paying school fees on a weekly basis which included breakfast and lunch.  We were able to save a few hundred dollars for the month of April since our son has been homeschooling, purchasing most of his favorite foods wholesale/ bulk which has saved us a good chunk of change as well.  In fact, I have found that our largest bill at the end of the month is not the mortgage or utility bills, its food.  So what we have now committed to doing is purchasing none perishable food items and household necessities such as toiletries and cleaning products wholesale as appose to retail purchasing.  This small lifestyle change has already saved us at least $1,000.00 in just a few short weeks.  Also, my husband and I have already concluded that our travel plans for 2020 are cancelled. Although I had such high anticipation for our summer family vacation abroad, I chose to see the brighter side of things with the monkey wrench being thrown in our plans.  The money that we were allocating towards travel expenses and recreation we can now add back to our savings.  All monies will be applied to contingency planning and other much needed family goals to be accomplished should everything go well once the dust has settled.  And, instead of airline tickets, hotel accommodations and rental car expenses we can do a staycation,  planning entertainment activities around local sites which we anticipate to begin opening back up by summer at the very least. That’s a whole lot of savings if you ask me…and who would complain about that?

I know this post was long but as usual I had to take you through my journey so that you can see how my methods have been tried, tested and proven before providing any kind of advice or suggestions to my readers.

I do hope that this post has been not only an inspiration to you but also a guide to a healthier, happier lifestyle change…

Be safe, stay healthy and continue to do your part to help heal the world.


Blessings and Love.


Prioritizing Life, Positivity, Wholistic Living, Self Evaluation, Life Lessons, Self Improvement

The Power of A Positive Attitude

“A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure” Henry Kissinger

Howdy do friends! Its been some time since I have posted to this blog page! I feel horrible for having neglected the few faithful followers for so long.  Anyway, I’m here now and hope that all is forgiven, so let’s move forward. I celebrated my 36th birthday this past week and thought it a fitting opportunity to bring you guys up to speed with what’s been going on with me these past few months. Life has been extremely busy! Between early morning traffic, day care drop offs, pick ups, working overtime, house chores, and all of the other responsibilities of adulting and motherhood it became difficult to post substantial material on a consistent basis. BUT that is no excuse! I made a commitment to share my journey, how ever far and few between in an attempt to inspire or encourage anyone willing to read.

…So anyway, I’ll jump straight into what I wanted to share today.

I have been meditating for weeks on the power of maintaining a positive attitude in my daily life. And how applying some of the principles that I am about to share with you has impacted the outcome of my decision making, which has added to my over all growth and development this past year.
In my last two posts I shared about my journey of being laid off and how I was able to cope through that season of self evaluation through positive meditation, self affirmation and prayer. Well in late January after being home for over nine months with no foreseeable way forward concerning my career, I received a call from my husband who in turn had gotten a call from one of his friends who worked for a local financial institution.  The company was seeking someone to complete a temporary project that their Human Resources Department was undergoing. Now, going from a well paying job with ample flexibility and amazing benefits to becoming a contractual worker, making half the salary, no benefits, and more work which involved a large degree of manual labor was not exactly what I had in mind for my next move. However, all things considered, I had to put everything in my life in the right perspective in order to move forward or remain in the same immobile place that I was currently in.  Although, for the most part, all of my basic needs were being met, the reality remained, with a very young growing family, my husband and I were not yet in a position for me to comfortably take on the role of stay-at-home wife and mother.

Here are some of the principles that I applied in my move from stay at home back to the regular hustle and bustle of an everyday working woman.
(1) Put things in the right perspective: It is important to keep the main thing, the main thing when making decisions that ultimately affect the direction of your life. It is always a matter of perspective, your point of view or thought pattern controls the trajectory of your life. When I was offered the temporary contract to assist the company’s HR Department on their uniform project, I gladly accepted. The way I saw it, taking the job was better than sitting at home doing nothing. It was a step in the right direction, no matter how small that step appeared to be at the time. Best case scenario, I would do so well that it would lead to a full time position in the company with an increase in salary and worthwhile benefits. Worse case, at the end of the 3 month contract I would have gained some experience to add to my resume and at the very least saved up some pocket money to get some much needed things done on my to do list. I had to think beyond the scope of my own ambitious desires for the next glamourous well paying job or new aspiring entrepreneurial venture. Above anything else, I had a commitment as a wife/help mate and a mother/provider first.

(2) Perform with a Spirit of Excellence: Anything that you do, it is vitally important to do it to the best of your ability.  After all, your work no matter how big or small is your trademark.  My superiors in HR were impressed with my work ethics and the positive approach that I took each day while carrying out my duties. The task ahead of me was no small undertaking. With a deadline to meet and attention to detail being critical, there was little to no room for error. The project involved me unpacking cases of the company’s new uniform order, systematically sorting through the hundreds of pieces to ensure that the orders were correct, re-boxing, labeling and then distributing them to the company’s 400 plus employees at the various local branch locations as well as ensuring shipment went out to the out island locations. It wasn’t a glamourous job but someone had to do it and I just happened to be that designated someone. And if I was going to do it, I needed to see it as more than what it appeared to be in order for it to be done properly. My reputation was at stake, I didn’t know who was watching and taking notes. My thinking everyday was that this small opportunity could potentially open bigger doors for me. So putting pride and high heeled pumps aside, I picked out my comfortable flats and jumped into full gear!

My greatest inspiration during that season was my husband, Michael’s journey. He had gone from self made boss/entrepreneur of a successful medium sized business back to a full time nine to five job following the closure of his ten year old mobile and electronics store back in 2013.  I pulled on the strength of his faith in God and his positive outlook towards the entire situation. Fortunately, he was able to go back to the company for which he worked ten years prior before moving into his own business. After one meeting with the company’s Managing Director, without reservation, they gave him a job. That in a nutshell spoke volumes, not only to his commitment to provide security for his family (above his need to protect his image or save face) but also to the level of confidence that the company must have had in the quality of his work to hire him back on the spot.

Every morning, I tapped into Michael’s voice that said “work as unto the Lord”.  It is a principal that we had been taught by our spiritual fathers. It doesn’t matter what the conditions are around us, we have a commitment to God and our faith to reflect the standards of the Kingdom in whatever we set our hands to do. Not one day since Michael went back to work did he come home depressed or sad because of some of the tasks that he had been assigned, regardless of whether he felt that they were beneath his abilities. Why? Because he understood the concept of seasons and the principles of going through the process. Also, he has always been confident in the fact that God would honor his faithfulness to perform each task in a spirit of excellence.  And on that admirable note, I took a page from his book.

(3) Think Seasonal: As I mentioned earlier, the project involved a large degree of manual labor but I could not base my decision on what was presently being offered. I had to shift into tunnel vision, putting things into the right perspective that taking on this project was just the beginning of a process that would lead to something more meaningful and rewarding for me and my family. Well, long story short, at the end of the three months, I had successfully completed the project in record time and was offered an extension to work on a project that was well underway in another department within the same company. That project held a lot more weight in terms of the level of “importance” of the task that I had been assigned in the grand scheme of things to the company. It required me to now go from working solo to now working along with a team to complete a client based regional initiative. Somehow, the skills that were required was exactly what I had acquired during my tenure in the full time job I had been released from just the year before.

This was a perfect opportunity to make my mark and prove my worth, and I think I did.  It was a lot of work, a lot more challenging in nature than the last one. Some days, my colleague and I did not even have time to break for lunch, sometimes working hours past closing time to meet weekly deadlines, knowing full well that we weren’t going to be compensated for the extra hours because it was not apart of the temporary contract agreement.  We could not look at it from that perspective though or we would lose focus of the end goal or risk compromising the quality of our work. The work needed to be done and there were people relying on us to do whatever it took to get it done in a timely and efficient manner.

So each day I approached my task with a renewed mind, remaining focused on the end goal, not just on a corporate level but for me it was personal. Now, looking back I wouldn’t trade one good or bad day of that part of my journey, because the value I got from that three month experience far outweighs the fifteen years of career training I received in my area of discipline.  It was like a three month boot camp course, only I was being paid for it. LOL! It was worth it…

Can you see the whole process unfolding so far? Keep reading…it gets better.

(4) Kick the Victim’s Mentality: Going into any environment, whether work or otherwise, the worse thing you can do is go in with a defeatist mentality.  Having that kind of thinking will also translate into how you view yourself through someone else’ lens and how you interpret everything, including other people’s response toward you. When working as part of a team, where there is a vast diversity of personalities and histories, conflict is inevitable.  However, this opportunity from day one allowed me to overcome those hurdles for which I once tripped over.  This is the part where I had to consciously work all the more to ensure given my last experience that I wasn’t being hyper sensitive at any given time.  Accepting, dissecting, analyzing and interpreting constructive criticism, as well as delegated instructions no matter the form in which it was given was under my control how I chose to respond to it.   I made a very deliberate attempt to take personal responsibility each day for my reaction towards the actions of others.  I had to level up in this area in a major way in order for me to maintain tunnel vision.  Putting my personal feelings on the side to perform at the optimum level was paramount. There were days when I felt like responding to situations based on my emotions but I knew that if I did, the outcome would have been unfavorable.

Each morning, prayer and self affirmations helped me to stay grounded and focused, taking all  things into perspective rather than interpreting things done or said by others in a negative light.  I was there to perform a duty and in return receive compensation; any other additive was simply a by-product of the experience. I was determined not to take it on. Therefore,  I took a very wholistic approach in every situation, whether I was interacting with a colleague or a disgruntled customer. I read a quote a few days ago “An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone does.  A healed person understands that the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with them. Each day you get to decide which one you will be.”  That is the mindset that will help you get through difficult days not just in the work place but generally in life.

(5) Adopt a Heart of Gratitude: This point right here should be penned by Michael really! He has mastered the art of rising every morning from the day we said “I do” with this attitude. After 2013, just months after our nuptials the decision was made to officially close the store. I was devastated! After packing the last box, I sat in the empty store and broke down in tears. One would’ve thought that I was there from inception, but I was more concerned for our future. I also felt sad for him. I knew that he was an awesome, prudent responsible business man. So why was this happening to him? Why was this happening to us…now? BUT he maintained his composure through it all! If he did cry, I never saw him do it. Rather, he consoled me…imagine that? LOL! Explaining again, the principles of seasons.  We had entered a new season.  It was a new beginning for us, I knew that it wasn’t going to be easy but nothing worth building ever is right?

Anyway, back to the present…After being unemployed for nearly a year, getting a phone call at all was like a flicker of light at the end of a very long and winding tunnel.  So to say that I was grateful for the opportunity was an understatement.  Although the salary and job description did not match my ideal job, being able to independently make some cash was a relief. I had to maintain this same mindset that Michael did nearly six years ago when he had lost far more than I did. So on days when I felt completely exhausted after working long hours, barely able to get out of bed to get dressed for work, I had to recall the same mental state that I was in when I accepted the position. I was thankful to God for providing a way for me, it was like Abraham’s ram in the thicket.

(6) Stay Humble:  So fast forward to now…right at the brink of my last few days of the 2nd contract I received a call from another institution.  I had applied for a position nearly a year ago with them. They had called me in for an interview in late 2018, followed by a 2nd phone interview  but after further consideration decided to fill the intended role internally instead. Needless to say I was disappointed at the time, because it would have been a perfect fit for what I had in mind.

Now more than six months later, the interviewer calls me back to ask if I would be ok with her releasing my CV to an independent consultancy company looking for a candidate to fill a role for which she felt I would be suitable for…My response “most definitely!”

I started with that company two weeks ago and get this, the required knowledge for the position is exactly what I had acquired during my 2nd contracted project at the financial institution.

What if I had failed to go through the process? What if I had said “No” to the initial job offer to pack uniform boxes because I felt that it was beneath my abilities? I think the lesson in all of this is very clear.  Maintaining a positive attitude and remaining humble through every high and low is a powerful method for success. I left that company on a very good note I might add, especially since my contract was due for an extension had I not opted to take this job.  My direct supervisor provided very good feedback on my work ethics at the end and even promised to put a personal recommendation into HR to rehire me should a suitable full time position become available in the future.

Its true what they say, “your attitude determines your altitude”…nothing could be more true!

Tried and proven…




In my September post I talk about losing my job and the journey that led to starting “The Rise Project”. Well that job was paying relatively well, had amazing benefits/incentives and I was comfortable in my function. I would say that in my 15 years of work experience, it was the best job I had landed thus far. I was three years in with the company and I was finally settling into my new responsibilities. I was warming up to the idea of being with the company for a few more years and saving up before moving on to the next level.

For the first few months after being home, I struggled mentally with my own will. I had spent years receiving from God but I felt entitled to do so. I thought I had already given and sacrificed enough in my latter years, it was my turn to sit back and reap the harvest. I felt that I deserved every ounce of blessing and I wanted even more! I was becoming greedy and ungrateful and it was also manifesting in my speech. Rather than thanking God for what I did have, I began to focus more on all of the things I wanted to change. Of course, there is nothing wrong with progressive thinking but God had to remind me through my husband that I was border lining being ambitious and stepping over into being ungrateful.

Gradually, God had to peel back the layers of my dead weight thinking. He revealed to me that I had been operating in a spirit of pride, fear and self righteousness for quite some time. Everyday, little by little I was forced to relinquish my grip on my life as I knew it before He could do anything else with it.

There was more to living a fulfilled life than acquiring material things. And in my mind, that job was my ticket to affording my dreams.  God had to remind me that “to whom much is given, much is required”. I had to learn to be satisfied with what I had in front of me first. I had to learn how to maintain a spirit of gratitude even when things weren’t going my way.

I was forced to tap into other gifts and talents that had been laying dormant for years. Gifts that I “chose” not to use for His glory because of pride. He quickly reminded me that the “choice” was not mine to make! My thinking was this: “if I cant do it BIG or be PERFECT at doing it, then I wont do it at all”. Or, I would make the excuse of waiting for the conditions to be just right. I was afraid of trying and failing. I was afraid of just being “ok” or “mediocre” at whatever I did, so I simply shrunk back. And to be honest, I secretly judged anyone that tried in their own endeavors and did not meet or exceed that standard that I had set for my own self. I had to recognize that, that level of thinking was associated with the spirit of pride and self righteousness at work in my life.

Many days during that nine month period, my late senior pastor’s voice echoed in my ear, words he had spoken just months before his passing back in 2014. “Never despise small beginnings” but I was doing just that. I despised the thought of starting small and not measuring up to my high minded thinking. I started to find faults in the many blessings that I had already been afforded. So it was time to self evaluate.

In that time, I rested physically yes but I also had to learn how to “rest in Him”. He had to retrain my thinking to “Not my will, but His will” being done in my life; no matter how miniscule His plans may appear to me. I had developed tunnel vision, but my vision was clouded by my own selfish ambitions. I had to learn that how He chooses to use my life is not always about me “winning big”. It wasn’t all about me. Rather, it was about being a conduit of His love to others.  I wasn’t the only one that had aspirations. I wasn’t the only one to have gone through things. And I wasn’t the only one that needed encouragement. I had to learn that my story was unique to me but that it was unfair to compare it to anyone else’.

The position I had taken with family and friends was “I have endured more than them, and I would never behave or respond to that situation like that”. With that mindset, I was sitting comfortably in the seat of self righteousness. It was scornful. I had to remove the chip from my shoulder; one that I had been carrying for years.

God is still working on me. The way I see it, its a daily process that I am prepared to walk through.  Everyday I am committed to renewing my mind. Old habits and old ways of thinking are constantly being discarded and replaced with a new mindset.

So even though I “lost” a job, much of the process that I have walked through has gained me an even larger degree of insight.

I created this blog a month before I was laid off but hadn’t published my first post until weeks into me being home. So for those of you that have been following my posts, as I learnt more about God and a surrendered life, I have been sharing it with you. I pray that it has been a blessing to someone.

Of course, sometimes written words get lost in translation and are limited in expressing the true intent of the heart. I have probably offended a few people along the way. Some of my views may not be agreeable, but it is my journey, nonetheless. One that is filled with lessons on both practical application and spiritual insight.

I have come to recognize that it is vastly important to know when to apply either of the two.  There must always be balance in making life altering decisions. Even though we ought to walk by the spirit; there is absolutely nothing that we can do physically that would “earn” us the right to the depth of His love and grace.  I guess, that is the beauty of being the perfect imperfections that we are.

Through out that process, God remained the loving father that He is. In all of His infinite wisdom He ensured that my cupboards were never empty and all of my family’s bills were paid on time each month. I still cant quite figure out the math BUT To God Be All the Glory!!! See, when He breaks us, its never to harm us but to heal us; to teach us that its only by His grace that we are here.

I approached 2019 with a much different view from the way I did 2018. Yes, my husband and I have written plans and have presented them before God but we remain open to whatever adjustments God chooses to make. Sometimes, He allows things to happen to jolt us. He has to temporarily remove His hedge of protection to remind us all that He ultimately has the final say. We are never completely in control!

It is important to remember that He is a jealous God. He will never share His glory with anyone or anything. Yes, we should be confident in ourselves and in our abilities but we should never cross the line into thinking that what we have achieved was done in our own strength. It could all be taken away in a heart beat. We should approach every single blessing in our lives with a spirit of humility! Our relationships, our children, our spouses, our material possessions, our careers, our titles, our gifts and talents, our health and physical attributes; everything is a gift given to us by God. Nothing should be taken for granted. They are all dispensable.

He is faithful to His promises but He operates on principles. They are unwavering, they don’t change. We must always check and balance every decision, motive and intent against His divine character to ensure that we are in line. I have found that once I hold up my end of the agreement, He makes limitless possibilities available.

Its only February and He is already working things in my favor. That’s the kind of God He is.


Forgiveness, Healthy Living, Healthy Mindset, Godly Living, Mental Wellness, Uncategorized

Once Bitten…

We all know the expression “Once bitten, twice shy”. Well I don’t know about you but personally that saying had become a mantra in my life at one point. For years, I walked from one year into another bound by the spirit of unforgiveness and felt justified in walking in it because I felt that I was the victim. Little that I knew, in attempting to move forward with that mindset, I was actually delaying my own progress and subsequently giving even greater power to my offenders. It took some time to come to the realization that I had gone from being the victim to now creating my own self inflicted wounds.
In this post, I would like to talk about forgiveness, letting go and moving on. First things first. Let’s establish God’s take on Forgiveness.
In Matthew 6: 14-15 it states:
“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your father will not forgive your sins.”
If we sit and think about the magnitude of God’s love towards us, that He would go to the extent of sending His beloved son in human form to suffer through the beggarly elements of this worldly system, to be ridiculed, abused, mocked, beaten, humiliated and suffer the most brutal death under the hands of men just for our sins. To have gone to such an extent just to save us from eternal death, then turn around and say “Yes, I did all of that for you but if you do not forgive the people that hurt you then I won’t forgive you.” Now to the human intellect, this doesn’t seem reasonable but you must understand that God is a God of principles. If we are to walk and act as though we are made in His image and likeness, then we must reflect His nature and character even when it hurts to do so.
Ok, I know what some of you may say “You have no idea what he/she did to me!” “You have no idea what I had to go through because of them…” No, I don’t know your personal experience, but I think we can all relate to being hurt by someone.
I know all too well how it feels to be hurt not just by random people, but by family and those I considered to be friends. My experience of emotional and sometimes even physical abuse go as far back as childhood. And in many of those instances, it was usually perpetrated by those that I allowed myself to become vulnerable to.
As I got older and began to establish my adult relationships, I began to notice a pattern though. I realized that my introverted personality helped me to master the art of suppressing my pain and anger. And what I would do is allow the pain of what people would say or do to me to fester without openly addressing it. So, I never really released from my heart, the people that had wronged me. In the blog post, “Clean Hands, Impure Heart”, I talk about coming to terms with this realization during a teaching by my late senior pastor. He talked about “iniquities” which were the hidden sins of the heart. He said, sometimes we see people that appear to be living a Holy life; to the natural eye they appear to have it all together as far as their Christian walk is concerned, their hands are by all intent and purpose “clean”. However, hidden in their hearts are unresolved issues such as pride, bitterness, envy, jealousy and unforgiveness.
I discovered years ago, that harboring unforgiveness is like drinking a cup of poison with the expectation that the person who has hurt you would feel the effects of it. Rather, your holding on to that resentment, bitterness or pain hurts you more than it hurts the other person that you hold in contempt. In most cases, you will find that the other person has moved on with their lives, and you are left trying to fight through those internal battles resulting in sleeplessness and generally an unhappy life with unhealthy relationships as a result of not being able to let go.
Sometimes we are apprehensive to forgive because we feel that others might interpret our forgiveness as a sign of weakness or vulnerability. One might even feel as though forgiving the other person would indicate validation of their actions towards you, or in other words “I am ok with what you did”, but it doesn’t mean that at all.
Forgiving the other person actually magnifies your strength and maturity. It puts you in control of the situation and in control of your own emotions. Forgiving means “although I do not agree with what you did, I make a conscious decision to be the bigger person and release myself of any negative thoughts or emotions that is causing me my peace and could possibly hinder my relationship with God and my emotional wellbeing.”
Forgiveness for some does not come easy and the process to get through it is often times determined by the severity of the offense. Some of us are holding onto unresolved issues with a superior, coworkers or just an acquaintance. While some of us have gone through years of repeated emotional and even physical abuse under the hands of a guardian, significant other, family member or close friend. Whatever the depth of your scars, I have jotted down a few steps that have helped me to get through my process of forgiveness.
1. Understand the “Why”: It is often difficult to come to terms with “what” someone did to cause the hurt, discomfort, inconvenience or loss that you experience as a result of their bad judgement or actions. However, in my experience with working through the process of forgiveness, I have found that when I took the time to properly analyze a person’s behavior towards me, it made it easier to process. Being able to work through why a person does what they do helps to put a lot of things into perspective and it helps you to see things from a different vantage point as oppose to seeing it through the lens of the victim. BUT Simone, what if I never find out their “why”? Good question! Which leads me to the next point.
2. Understand the Season: Very early on in my adult life I was introduced to the concept of seasons and relationships. This has helped me a great deal to be able to release people from personal expectations. Some people come into your life for a specific purpose and season. Knowing the role that they play, the lessons you should learn from them in that season and when the season has ended will free you up from feelings of resentment and bitterness when the relationship begins to take a turn for the worse. Sometimes it means that there is merely a breakdown in communication and perhaps issues can be resolved by simply sitting down and talking it over. Of course disagreements are inevitable and necessary for any healthy relationship but you must recognize the signs of when a relationship is coming to the end of its season. I have found that once you begin to see a continuous or habitual trend that is associated with negative behavior and a lack of peace, then that is most likely an indication that it is time to move on. Understand, not everyone is meant to play the role of loyal longtime confidant in your life. And this does not mean that you have to completely cut people off. Its ok to re-categorize relationships without throwing them completely away. Relationship categories can change over time but you have to know at what point the shift has taken place or you will find yourself becoming angry or disappointed by the other person’s actions or lack thereof because of misplaced expectations. Once you are able to decipher between seasons, it will make life a whole lot easier for you. Carrying someone or something into one season that you should have let go in a past season can and will create unnecessary stress. Dare I say, moving into a season with what you should have left behind in another season can contaminate and poison your vision for the new season. Whether it is a job, a business, a community, a plutonic relationship or otherwise, it is very important to know when to let go. Disclaimer: This point is NOT intended for married couples. Please seek professional counseling before making any life altering decision concerning your marriage; especially if children are involved.
3. Take back Control: the longer you allow what they did to affect you emotionally, the more control you continue to give them over your emotions. Rather, choose to redirect that pent up energy in a more productive fulfilling way. Investing your time into an activity that adds value to your life will help to take your mind off of the negative. What have you always wanted to do but never could find the time to do it? Maybe it’s taking a course, starting a new business, completing a project, joining an organization, making an investment, going on a trip somewhere you have always wanted to go. Whatever it is, channel some of that energy and fill up that mind space with self-improvement/self-empowerment activities; you will be surprised at the positive outcome. It is important to note that whatever you choose to do, it is with the right motivation though. Do it because it is something that you truly want to do and not to get back at the other person or to gain revenge. Make sure that your heart is completely in it. If not, you would have defeated the purpose. Busy yourself with making your life better instead of focusing on what the other person did or is doing. You will find that once you become so caught up in “doing you” that you will be too tired to think about anything or anyone else. By the time you’re through embarking on your journey, you would have created new lasting positive memories. And the memory of the last season will be a distant one, with no emotional strings attached.
4. Protect your Health: I am a firm believer that the quality of one’s life is not determined by any external factor, but rather by the condition of their heart. Nothing or nobody is worth the value of your inner peace. The longer we hold on to unforgiveness, the more the seed of bitterness grows like a cancer; thus making us vulnerable to both physical and mental malfunction. Proverbs 14: 30 (AMP version) states “A calm and peaceful and tranquil heart is life and health to the body, but passion and envy are like rottenness to the bones.” You have to deliberately make a decision that your health is more important than holding on to bitterness. Proverbs 13: 12 says “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” As mentioned in point 3, it is very crucial to your healing that you release the weight of disappointment which comes from the expectation that you have placed on others. Unresolved disappointment will steal your joy and peace! The best way to move pass the stage of disappointment is to take on the mindset that besides God, YOU are the only person in control of your inner peace and mental well-being. Everyone else, regardless of who they are, are never obligated to making you happy; that is too great a responsibility to give any human being.
5. Close the Door: Last but certainly not least, this (in my opinion) is the most important step to overcoming unforgiveness. In order to truly be delivered from the stronghold of unforgiveness it is important to talk to God about how you are feeling. In your quiet time with God, be completely honest about what happened and how it made you feel. In some cases, you might have an opportunity to confront your offender and express yourself the way you want to but this is rare. What better way to release all of that than during your private devotion? Allow the Holy Spirit to begin peeling back the damaged layers of your heart until you look and sound more like Christ. And remember forgiveness is a process but once you get through it, it is important not to keep revisiting the past. You have to let it go! Close the door and never reopen it again except as a point of reference when to help others through their process.

So there you have it. These steps have helped me with overcoming unforgiveness and I hope that this post will assist someone in moving into 2019 with a renewed heart and mind. Blessings and Love!

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” Bernard Meltzer

Self Evaluation, Life Lessons, Self Improvement

20 Life Lessons of 2018

“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same.  Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.” Don Williams Jr.

2018 is not over yet but the last 11 months went by really fast and it was quite the ride!!! It seems like just yesterday I posted “The Will to Rise”! Well, since that last post back in September, I am excited and happy to announce that the “I Will Rise” Single is now available for download on all major online music stores i.e. Amazon Music, iTunes, Apple, Google Play, Spotify, Deezer, Tidal.  The music video can be accessed via the YouTube link below:


I pray that it is as much of a blessing to you as it has been to those of us that had the awesome privilege of releasing it to the world.  If you haven’t already read “The Will To Rise”, I would encourage you to do so in order to get the inspiring story behind the vision for this project.

On another note, I felt it fitting to share with you, my 20 life lessons of 2018 as my last post for the year.


1. Obey God’s instructions the first time He gives them to you! It will save you a whole lot of energy in the long run.
2. If you want to put life’s meaning in the right perspective, simply watch a child in action.
3. A person’s words may mislead you, but their actions always reveals the truth.
4. Sometimes the best response is no response; just be quiet.
5. If its not helpful, uplifting, inspiring or insightful, don’t say it!

6. Do not waste time defending yourself. Those that are meant to join you on your journey will understand you without explanation.

7. As long as you have life, it is never too late to start. Better late than never.
8. Sometimes less is more but sometimes more is necessary. Ask God to teach you when and where to apply the difference.
9. Humility is the master key that unlocks true success.
10. You produce better results when you make your moves in silence.
11. Doing a good thing at the wrong time can produce failing results; timing is everything.
12. Don’t live in your past but tell your story because it is uniquely yours. If you overcame by the words of your testimony, then so can others.
13. Endeavor to help make someone else’s life better and watch your own life improve.
14. Rejection is necessary for growth. Embrace it! Let it fuel the fire within you that lights up a dark world.
15. Believe in you first, then maybe others will.
16. Dispel immediately, negative thoughts of “cant” and “never” or they will become your life’s pattern.
17. Present yourself as if you are always on stage. Your life is an example to someone that you do not know is watching.
18. Patience is a rare virtue practiced by those that are wise.

19. Be open to life’s interruptions; they are often times God’s way of saying “I have a better idea”.

20. To thine own self be true. If not, the true you will come out inevitably.


May 2019 meet us all wiser, stronger, better because of the lessons that 2018 has taught us.

Happy Holidays everybody!!!

Meditation, Self Motivation, Woman Empowerment, Team Work

The Will To Rise

The past few months have been both exciting and terrifying at the same time, to say the least, after being released from my full time job in mid April. And even though there was a level of expectation of what was coming, I still felt an equal amount of uncertainty when it actually happened. This new unplanned change that my husband and I had not quite prepared for was now interrupting future plans and with it came a degree of anxiety in me that I have never experienced before.
Some days I am positive, optimistic about new possibilities and new opportunities. I try to focus on the precedence of God’s faithfulness in my life over the years. I make a deliberate effort to remind myself of all of the times when He allowed a door to close, how He opened another one exceeding my expectations and providing a much better plan than what I had left behind. I had seen Him do it time and time again in every area of my life and I anticipate Him continuing in that same vein.
While, on the other hand, some days I get really sad, impatient and pessimistic about what the future will hold as time passes with no sign of progress. And its not that I have any immediate needs that aren’t being taken care of…but there is this unsettling feeling of stagnation, this daunting feeling of being stuck in one place, unable to move forward! By nature, I am a planner as well as an over thinker coupled with a bit of OCD. My husband will testify to the fact that I plan out every thing down to the most minute details. From short term to long term goals, family vacations, to the very outfits and everything else in between, months and even years in advance. So I’m sure you can imagine the amount of anxiety that I have experienced in the last few weeks of living in the unknown.
Yes, I have shed some tears and I have asked myself and God, all of the “Why, what and where” a few times. BUT if there is anything that I have learnt from my journey these past few years, it is that change though uncomfortable at times, if approached with the right perspective, is always accompanied by growth.
Right now, I am learning what it truly means to find rest in God on an entirely new level.

I am being forced to completely surrender my will to His and simply trust in His unfailing ability to protect, provide, sustain and secure a future for my family without having the slightest idea of what He is going to do next.
Lately, I have found myself speaking and meditating on words of affirmation. In my attempt to maintaining faith, thinking only on those things that are lovely and of good report, one day back in May I was led to pull up Maya Angelou’s poem “Still I Rise”. Meditating on the words while sitting on my bed, I began to hum a simple melody that I was hearing in my heart. Now normally, I love to sing when I’m alone and its mostly during my personal time of worship but this time it was different. I was singing a new song, not one of worship but one of self motivation.
A few times in the past, I had come up with melodies but would quickly dismiss any thought of putting pen to paper. After all, I had never really considered myself a soloist, song writer or had any aspirations of becoming one either. However, that day I was compelled to search my phone for a voice recorder and began recording myself singing the simple but catchy chorus. That evening when my husband came home and greeted me, his usual question came next “…So what did you do today?” Listing off all of the things I had managed to complete around the house, I added “…oh and I wrote a song…”
“Wow, baby that is awesome…” exclaiming how happy and proud he was of me that I was being productive and making the most of my day. Now it was time for him to hear what I had produced! I knew that if he liked it, it was worth something pursuing further because he is one of the most brutally honest persons I know. I was confident in the fact that he wouldn’t spare my feelings and risk me embarrassing myself. After listening to the raw version that I had recorded on my phone, he gave his smile and stamp of approval “I like it! …but its not complete…Now tomorrow write the verse to it and then you’ll have a full song”.
By the following day I had written two verses and a bridge and as they say the rest is history in the making. The title of the song is called “I Will Rise”. Now, I knew that even though I could “manage” to sing, I was also well aware of my limitations. I am a bit of a perfectionist so if I was to get the desired sound that I was hearing in my head, I needed the help of a few trusted and well abled friends. So I told Michael what my vision was for the song and he advised me to pray about who I should choose to help me bring my vision and heart project to life.
Fast forward, four months later…this week we completed our last studio session and in just a few short weeks our labor of love will be released to the world. And if I told you that from May to this point has been an easy ride I would be telling a lie. Quite honestly, after choosing the group I had absolutely no expectations of what the next few weeks and months would hold. Going into this thing, I took a major leap of faith because not only was I now putting my money where my mouth was, I was exposing myself to public scrutiny by stepping out of the comfortable box I had been confined too for so long.
Surprisingly enough, not only did all of the ladies I had invited to be apart of the project excitedly agree, after hearing the song they all fell in love with it! And though we are all from different backgrounds, all varying ages and stages in our lives, there was one common thread that connected us and that was our resolve to rise above the obstacles that we had all faced and overcome in our personal lives. So the message of the song resonated with us all on varying levels.
Of course it is natural that when women get together, things never go “as planned” so during our rehearsal sessions, we have had times of sharing, each individual either telling their story, depositing a nugget of wisdom, giving an encouraging word or simply being a listening ear. It was these unexpected, unplanned interruptions that created teachable moments for me. It was during those times that I realized that our coming together was not just for me to simply complete and produce a song. It had become more than what I had bargained for in an immeasurable but very rewarding way. Each lady began to testify how they would catch themselves singing the song sub consciously and how it had ministered to them.
The song had already taken on life and was making an impact, not just on the ladies but also on me.
I read a meme the other day that said “We rise by lifting others”…that is precisely what we all did as a collaborated force. It was no longer “Simone’s project”, we became a group, each member taking on the vision as though it was their very own.
So what started out as just a simple melody from the heart during a period of feeling down, rejected and being in a place of obscurity, blossomed into what we now call “Four One”…a movement of four women singing for an audience of One.
Amidst the frustration that I sometimes faced with clashing schedules and rehearsal cancellations due to unforeseen circumstances, family emergencies and health challenges; our desire and commitment to seeing others touched by what had been entrusted to us outweighed it all. Being apart of the “I Will Rise” Project has helped to fortify my faith during this season. It has taught me, through observation and practical application, the power of creativity when there is a presence of unity and freedom. I have experienced first hand the principles of true servant leadership, humility, patience, endurance, selflessness, genuine love and pure friendship.

Through this project I was also reminded that it was ok to be human…it was ok to ask for help, it was ok to not have it all figured out, it was ok to not be ok all the time and most importantly it was ok to sometimes take a step back and simply rest…To find the beauty in simplicity…To appreciate where I am now while on my way to where I want to be.

I don’t know how far reaching this song will be once it is released. The ladies and I have high expectations because what The Lord has allowed us to create is a beautiful sound with a powerful message that will be very difficult to ignore…
Either way, if nothing else becomes of it, one thing is certain and that is, this entire experience has changed me for the better and with that change came growth…I think we all grew in one way or the other…because we found the will to rise while lifting each other…I would not have had it any other way.
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Meditation, Mental Stability, Uncategorized

What Are you Meditating On?

Nowadays there are so many voices speaking out, fighting for their opinions to be heard. Whether those voices are echoing from a physical stage, over the air waves or some social media platform, many are vying for the attention of the masses. It is as if the world was one big classroom and every one were students all trying to speak at the same time. Dare I bring it closer to home and say that even on our jobs, amongst close friends and families there are varying levels of opinions on the topics of family, relationships, faith, finances, politics, environment and world issues that either affects our lives directly or indirectly. Most times you will find that if you are not careful you have taken a position on an issue because external opinions have now taken form in your subconscious mind thus creating perceptions.

According to columnist and member of Association for Psychological Science, Nalini Ambady in a survey on “The Mind in the World: Culture and the Brain”: “One of the most fundamental ways in which cultural beliefs, practices, and ideologies influence psychological processes is in the cognitive schema or self-construal style that people use to think about themselves and their relation to others.”

That being said, the question now remains- As a believer living in the world that we live in today where everyone is in pursuit of the fundamental keys to happiness, success and peace- with all of its ideologies and philosophies-what voice do I listen to? Who do I trust to give me clear instructions on how I should live my life? How do I know how to decipher between the motivations that are in my best interest or whether the opinions of those speaking into my hearing are self seeking or manipulative in nature?

This might sound somewhat super spiritual but you must pray for discernment when it comes to this area. I am of the view that everything that is manifested in the natural comes from the spiritual realm, that includes ones thoughts, which becomes ones beliefs, which become words and thus become actions. Therefore the word of God admonishes us to “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.” Ephesians 6: 11

Who Is Speaking?

You must know the difference in the voices around you…whether they are of God or of the enemy. It is my experience that when God wants to speak he does one of three things; He directs you to it in His word through the leading of the Holy Spirit, He speaks to you through dreams or He sends a message through man to affirm what He has already told you.

Often times we become distracted by the everyday challenges that life brings which results in us becoming insensitive to God’s voice- hence He has to use the latter two methods in order to get his message across to us. However, it was never His intentions to use another human being to speak to his creation or speak to our subconscious through dreams. Just as He communed with Adam in the garden one on one, he wants to commune with us. (Genesis 3)

During my season of processing I found that opening my ear and eye gates to carnal communication created a whole lot of mind battles. I began to allow my own assumptions of people’s opinions to consume my life. Rather than focusing on thoughts that would take me to new levels, I focused my time and attention on defensive actions. For nearly a year I suffered from recurring night mares and even insomnia all because instead of feeding my spirit with the word of God and meditating on things of good report, I meditated on all of the wrong thoughts. I did not know then that by failing to digest the right kind of information I was leaving myself vulnerable to spiritual attack thus creating what I now know as spiritual warfare. Here are a few principles that I learnt during that time.

Protect Your Eyes and Ears:
Remember that the adversary is crafty, if he cannot control your mind through the use of the internet or other literature you might obtain by way of the internet or media; he will attempt to gain entrance to your thoughts through other methods. The enemy will use anyone who makes themselves available to be used by him; family, friends, coworkers and even those that are in authority. Remember that the job of the enemy is always to kill, steal and destroy. He comes to kill your dreams and Godly desires, steal your peace and joy, he comes to destroy your life. Ultimately his job is to destroy the seeds of the word of God that has been planted in your heart- seeds of faith that says that you are more than a conqueror through Christ, seeds of confidence that says that you can do all things through Christ that gives you strength, seeds of healing that says that by the stripes that Jesus bore that you are healed and that healing is the children’s bread.

Understand that the enemy knows that once he can control how you view yourself, once he can control your thought pattern, then he can control every decision you make regarding your life. How does he do this? Well just as God doesn’t physically step down from His thrown in Glory to bring you a word, the enemy doesn’t physically ascend from the pits of darkness to destroy you- he uses people. He uses people’s words and actions to breed seeds of doubt, despair and discouragement. Once he can gain an opening to your ears while your guards are down he knows that he has won half the battle. Soon enough, if you are not completely protected in your spirit, those seeds of discouragement will begin to take root and before you know it you are subconsciously meditating on the negative rather than on that of what your heavenly father has said about you.

Protect Your Mind:
If truth be told, half of the challenges that we face in our everyday lives are not as a result of external factors but it is our own thoughts that debilitate us and creates stagnating and self defeating behaviors leaving us opened to the “fiery darts” of the enemy. Just as God speaks to us through people and dreams, so does the adversary. If we do not make a conscious decision to consecrate our minds and hearts daily with the word and worship, we leave room for the enemy to plant seeds through our thoughts- seeds of doubt, fear, bitterness and inadequacy. It is imperative that you are very intentional about what you spend time meditating on during the hours that you are awake. What kind of literature are you reading? Are you reading material that uplift you and add to your personal, spiritual and financial progress; or are you merely soaking up information that add no value to your life. What are you watching? How much time do you spend on social media meditating on the opinions of others rather than finding information that will enhance your daily living? What kind of music are you listening too? Are the lyrics positive or God centered? Or are you listening to songs that denote and encourage violence, profanity and lute behavior? If you ever have to question whether what you are digesting is beneficial or God approved, simply search for the inner voice to direct you in your decision making.
During my season of soul searching I watched countless videos that were geared towards spiritual healing and self empowerment. I had to make a conscious decision to flush out the negative with positive words of encouragement and enlightenment if I was to ever move forward. I knew that if I could change my thought pattern then I could ultimately change the course of my life. I had to dispel every negative word that I had ever heard spoken over my life from childhood straight through to adulthood; words spoken into my hearing about my birth, existence, worth and abilities.

Maybe you are battling with the opinions of others today and it has held you captive to stagnation and even setbacks. I encourage you today to self evaluate your situation and make the steps in the right direction by discerning the voices around you. What and who you choose to listen to will determine your thought pattern which will eventually determine the course of action that you take for your life.